“Just be myself?” You should see how many selves there are in my psyche. Some of them are fucking murderers and they are trying to kill me. Like, I’m surviving them. I’m living with them, y’know?” – Jenny Slate, Stage Fright Since the age of 11, I have been in therapy eight times. Four times…
And I can tell When you get nervous You think being yourself means being unworthy And it’s hard to love with a heart that’s hurting “…queer as not about who you’re having sex with, that can be a dimension of it, but queer as being about the self that is at odds with everything around…
what will we be to each other / if the world doesn’t end? [1] ~~~ I write to be heard. I write to understand. I write to be understood. I write to share myself with you. I write so that maybe I won’t feel so alone. I write so that maybe we’ll connect. At some point earlier…
“…Maybe it’s all gonna turn out alright / Oh, I know that it’s not / but I have to believe that it is…” – Julien Baker “Appointments” ~~~ Today is my 37th birthday. Birthdays are interesting markers for people like me. I spend a lot of my daily energy struggling with thoughts about not particularly wanting…
As the dumpster fire that is the year 2019 comes to a close, I want the final post of the year and decade to be one of hope, love, and joy. May the year 2020 be the start of a new era of healthy masculinities rooted in empathy, interconnection, and care for the self and…
Throughout much of this article, I was honestly debating whether or not I thought it added anything new to the conversation on masculinities, the toxic behaviors of boys/men, and how we raise our boys in the United States. Every few months or so there is an article similar to this one that is featured in…
As Angela Y. Davis told us in 1979, “In a racist society, it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.” The former is a passive existence that enables oppression, while the latter is an active identity of resistance to the status quo. In a sexist and patriarchal society, it is not enough to…
Abuse can be difficult to see or name from the inside. If we suspect or believe someone we care about to be in an abusive relationship, confronting them about it in a way that may feel accusatory has the potential to push them closer to their abuser. The realities of domestic violence are often confusing…
