“Just be myself?” You should see how many selves there are in my psyche. Some of them are fucking murderers and they are trying to kill me. Like, I’m surviving them. I’m living with them, y’know?” – Jenny Slate, Stage Fright Since the age of 11, I have been in therapy eight times. Four times…
And I can tell When you get nervous You think being yourself means being unworthy And it’s hard to love with a heart that’s hurting “…queer as not about who you’re having sex with, that can be a dimension of it, but queer as being about the self that is at odds with everything around…
“Who would you be if you were allowed to walk into your full self?” – Kenyon Farrow In this powerful panel discussion (which is also a quick watch at less than 15-minutes), five Black gender activist-scholars grapple with the role of patriarchy in their/our masculine identities, families, relationships, and communities. While the discussion poses more…
Over the last year and a half, discussions of abolition, defunding the police, re-funding social services, etc. have been widely debated, but not unexpectedly, few actual initiatives have to come to fruition. One of the areas, however, where some productive shifting of funding, staffing, and vision has occurred is in relation to school resource officers,…
what will we be to each other / if the world doesn’t end? [1] ~~~ I write to be heard. I write to understand. I write to be understood. I write to share myself with you. I write so that maybe I won’t feel so alone. I write so that maybe we’ll connect. At some point earlier…
A message from our editor for our white readers and friends. Rape culture and toxic masculinity are intricately embedded in, and dependent upon, white supremacy. Black lives matter. Ending rape culture is an abolitionist project; we must abolish the police. Donate to Movement for Black Lives https://secure.actblue.com/donate/movement-4-black-lives-1 or find a local organization or Black owned…
“…Maybe it’s all gonna turn out alright / Oh, I know that it’s not / but I have to believe that it is…” – Julien Baker “Appointments” ~~~ Today is my 37th birthday. Birthdays are interesting markers for people like me. I spend a lot of my daily energy struggling with thoughts about not particularly wanting…
As the dumpster fire that is the year 2019 comes to a close, I want the final post of the year and decade to be one of hope, love, and joy. May the year 2020 be the start of a new era of healthy masculinities rooted in empathy, interconnection, and care for the self and…